Attention.
We all want some sometimes.
Some of us want more than others.
You know the type. Attention whores.
Everything they do is done to garner attention.
It’s another thing I just don’t get.
Now I’m not going to say I never look for attention. We all do.
Blogging itself is an attention seeking behavior. We put our lives, our pictures, our thoughts and even our sexual escapades out there for everyone to see, for everyone to comment on. Hell, I even sell videos.
But I think there is a point where it goes from normal attention seeking to attention whore. A point where it becomes kind of desperate and ugly to those who recognize it for what it is.
Like…
I post a blog and it’s set up to automatically post a link on Twitter. So I’m kind of marketing myself, getting my link out there, getting more people to come read my drivel. Garnering more attention for myself.
Maybe it’s because I do it but I find that to be a fairly normal level of attention seeking.
But then you have the folks who not only have the Twitter link but, an hour later, they have to Twitter it again. And an hour later they Tweet something like “I posted booby pictures and no one commented? Pout!” – complete with another link to the post. And two hours later they Tweet something like “Karen liked my boobs. Do you?” – complete with yet another link to the same fucking post.
It’s aggravating as hell to me. And sad. It seems so desperate, so clingyneedywhinyunattractive.
And it’s not just the links. It’s all sorts of stuff.
Constantly posting pictures for attention. I mean, beyond the HNT and other occasional pic. I’m talking blatant and obvious bids for attention by picture overload.
Bratty behavior is also aggravating to me. Not goofin’ around, being a little shit with a little bit of sassy tongue. I’m talking, mostly in BDSM circles, about challenging, bratty, “you can’t conquer me, go ahead and try, i DARE you” behavior. Meh. It’s just ugly.
Or the girl who three times a week blogs about all the troubles in her life, sobbing and ranting. It’s always something with the drama queen. Soon as she’s garnered enough attention over one issue, she’ll find another to wail about. Ugh. And I don’t mean the normal, keep it real folks. The folks who talk about all sides of life. I’m talking about the drama seeking, attention seeking twit. I KNOW y’all know the difference.
I dunno, man.
Maybe the whole online networking thing is getting to me.
I’ve got Twitter and Facebook and FetLife and Multiply and MySpace and this blog and I’m just exposed to SO much of this attention seeking stuff.
It’s aggravating.
Maybe I’m jealous cuz I don’t know how to do it. Or… I have too much pride to do it, is more like it. Maybe if I knew how to cry out for attention – or would let myself – I’d get more.
But…
Honestly, I do fine the way I am.
This blog and my videos and the toy reviews… they all fill a need of some sort. I don’t think I need to scream for more. I don’t think I want attention garnered that way.
Just like I don’t want to have to whine and cry and scream for attention from Taylor, I don’t want to have to do that shit for attention from anyone.
Is it even true attention? True caring? I don’t think so. But I don’t think the attention whore types really care. Or even know the difference.
I don’t know why I”m musing on this today, either.
Maybe a small part of me wishes I could do the attention whore thing so I could get Taylor out of the basement and away from working on bike stuff to give me a spank and a fuck.
Then again, knowing Taylor, attention seeking behavior would just get me ignored.
Which, oddly enough, is exactly how I react to it, too. The more you yell for attention the less I’m gonna look at you – cuz it’s ugly. (Not YOU. You in general, you know?)
I’m the attention nazi. No attention for you!
Now my coffee is cold. Damn it.
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I drink a lot of coffee, ride a motorcycle, have an 18 year old son and a decade long relationship that began in a chat room.
Attention whoring is usually because someone doesn’t know how to get the attention they need in a healthy way. It’s almost like stealing. Energetic vampirism, only…not because they enjoy it…but because they just don’t know how to do it any other way. The internet is full of these people because the majority of the ones who spend the most time on line are the ones who are already pretty socially inept. (and, I’m not talking about home-body slaves who use the internet as a connection to the real world).
I know a girl who’s like this to the nth degree in real life. When I leave her presence I feel like I’ve been emotionally sucked dry. It’s not fun.
You don’t do it…or want to to it, because you know how to get and give yourself valdidation through healthy means. (and the fact that they’re unhealthy and don’t know it, doesn’t excuse it or make it any less icky.) It is ugly to watch…because it’s more than a little pathetic.
Obsessive tweeting annoys me. I saw your tweet, thank you, goodbye.
I like posting pictures, though. I’m in English right now and I was in journalism in high school, and I’ve always hated massive blocks of text. Pictures, IMO, help add color and break up the monotony. It’s not that I’m not willing to read a well-written post, but it starts to get a little grueling if it’s just paragraph after paragraph after paragraph…but I post a lot of pictures, so I probably just excuse it because I do it.
Heh. Pictures are good. I like pictures. But if you have 698 pictures on your Facebook profile? Dude, start a photo blog. Lol. Or if you’re posting pics then running around screaming “look at me, look at me, look at me!” it’s annoying as hell.
There’s always a line, you know?
Some people manage to cross it on a regular basis.
Most of us are just normal.
And I like your pictures! :)
I actually have almost 500, but I do photography, so I think that’s a little different. I did have a photo blog, but it started getting spammed, so I basically just abandoned it for the safer haven of my relatively private facebook.
As long as people are’t obnoxious about it and don’t whine when nobody comments after a mere hour, I’m usually okay with it. But that drives me APESHIT.
I don’t get the appeal of Twitter either. When people started using it, I checked it out and thought, you know…I can REALLY do without knowing they are “having coffee right now” “standing in line right now” “wiping my ass right now”. I mean, puhleeze.
I don’t *want* to know that much about anyone, not even me.
I like my blog and commenters, I like being on Fetlife and interacting. I guess I prefer interaction. It’s okay to say you’re having coffee, but I’d like to be able to ask, “So how is the coffee?” you know…
I like to get attention, who doesn’t, but I like to *give* attention, too. Facebook, Twitter…it’s so one way.
In other news, Carrie, have you been doing the TMJ exercises and has it helped at all? :)
Heh. I actually like twitter, mostly for keeping up with my Eden Fantasys reviewer friends. And you actually can reply to people; either with a direct, private message or an @ message that shows up in their timeline.
But, yeah, sometimes it gets to be a little much on top of all the other social networking stuff. Or when attention hounds go batty.
I dunno about those exercises. See… I almost always have my tongue in that position. Well, nearly. I sit here all day with my tongue pressed to the roof of my mouth. It’s why I had to take out my tongue piercing. It got sore from all the pressure.
I actually think that’s where my TMJ stems from and that I’d do better if I could relax my jaw and keep my tongue where it’s supposed to be!
I dunno.
I do try the exercises but they feel awkward?
Maybe I should just say fuck it, do them regularly and see what happens, eh?
Yeah I don’t get Twitter, really, which is why the main thing, aside from the occasional comment, that goes up there is my blogs. And only on TwitFeed, once I realized how it worked.
I follow people on there from youtube. Not for any other reason except they said to. And they’re always posting things like “I just pooped.” or “I’m in the shower.” or “I am pooping.”
And I’m thinking to myself, “I don’t care about celebrities enough to care about their bathroom habits. And you’re not even a *real* celebrity. You’re a tuber. So why the hell do I care when you pooped again?”
Master’s not big on the networking sites. I’m not allowed to have my own space and, though Facebook tries to trip me up and tell me people are sending me messages there, I’ve never even asked for an account.
I’m absolutely in love with spoken word poetry. Have been working on a few pieces of my own. This one: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cO_37ZFKUmM says exactly how I feel about networking sites, if you’re interested lol. She’s amazing and it’s kinda funny.
Lmao at the pooping thing.
I”m thinking I’m glad I chose to follow the folks I follow. No one has EVER talked about poop.
But I do hear a lot about coffee, being tired and having just had sex. Lol
It’s more about stretching the ligaments (if that’s what they are) on the sides of your jaw and sort of trying to realign your jaw rather than pushing against the teeth. and you *are* pressing lightly against the back of your two front teeth, right? Not the roof of your mouth but on the teeth. And lightly. On the other hand, you might have a different kind of TMJ than I do; I’m no doc, heh, only passing on what the doc said in the class I took and I wasn’t paying attention to everyone else’s specific TMJ because I was trying so hard to listen to what he was saying about *mine*. But I do know that my jaw locks and pops almost never, now and it’s definitely due to doing the exercises.
Tonight I am wearing a ball-gag for the very first time and I’m worried although I haven’t said anything. I know if it really bothers me he’ll take it off, of course, but that would make me feel defeated, so…we’ll see how it goes, wish me luck! :)
Crossing my fingers and toes for you! :)
Rayne, Facebook isn’t bad, really. My Space is horrible, I refused to participate when it was popular. Horrendous, atrocious layouts, just…ick ick.
Facebook is much cleaner and everyone is on one page, very easy to scroll through what everyone is doing, unlike other formats where you have to go from one page to another.
I was very much anti-Facebook (Christ! Not another fucking social network, NO MORE!) until my family hounded me into it. It’s not so bad; I only tell people I’m pooping every three days or so. (Okay, kidding, it’s actually more than that; I just don’t want to freak anyone out)
lol!
No, seriously, right now we’re on “baby watch” for our girl-child so…that’s about all I say on there these days. “Waiting…waiting…waiting…”