Yeah..
Obviously I’m still fretting over the whole Lied To situation of a couple weeks ago. That’s the problem with lies… even if you forgive someone you can’t really get it out of your mind as easily.

“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” ~Thomas Szasz, The Second Sin

Maybe that makes me wise. But wise doesn’t always feel so good. Then again, being the casualty of a lie doesn’t feel so hot, either.

It is simply awful to feel mistrust for someone you should be able to trust. Worse, even, to understand why they may have lied but to still be so affected by it. What it comes down to is this: “Not that you lied to me but that I no longer believe you – that is what has distressed me.” ~Friedrich Nietzsche To understand and forgive the lie and yet be unable to believe, trust or have blind faith in someone because of the lie. To always feel the need to check, be sure, validate what someone does or says. A person can’t live like that. I need to get past it, stop reacting to the hurt and fear the lie has put in me and move on.

Easier said than done.

Humans are wired for self protection. And it’s kind of like the Boy who Cried Wolf. “Liars when they speak the truth are not believed.” ~Aristotle

It’ll sort itself out eventually. But the battle between wanting to forgive enough to make the person actually FEEL forgiven instead of suspect and wanting to protect myself is a fiernce one.

*I was interrupted a few times in writing this and it’s probably not a little on the rambling, nonsensicle side. Apologies.