Really?

We’re advocating not taking responsibility for our actions now?

So I was cruising around FetLife, looking for something to inspire a rant or some deep thought or…  whatever.  Cuz, yanno, life in the Taylor y puss casa has been damned quiet and normal and uneventful for a damned long time.  (For those who may not know, puss = me.  Taylor calls me puss)  And [...]

Headspace.  Remembering your place. Blah blah blah.  Yet another topic I’ve grown weary of.  (So, yes, I talk about it more.  How much sense does that make?)
I think I used to put a lot of importance on the little things, the direct dominance type stuff that would put me in the proper headspace to do [...]

Every time I see a discussion titled slave vs submissive, I damned near get lock jaw from clenching my teeth so hard.
I am not about to get into the debate regarding what the difference is.  As far as I’m concerned, there freakin’ isn’t one.  Not in the way most folks mean when they talk about [...]

Bunch of stuff in my noggin’ that’s giving me a headache cuz it’s all tangled up in a crazy knot and won’t untwist…
So you’ll have to forgive my rambling today.
Somebody on a forum I frequent asked a question about sexuality and how it relates to nudity and if being comfortable nude and loving your body [...]

So I just ranted about this less than two months ago but I feel the need to revisit.
Insult.  Injury. Offense.
Stop it already!
Is it because we are so connected to so many people over the internet?  Because we converse with people we’d never meet at all in our daily lives?  Because we read so much, from so [...]

So I’m sitting here and Taylor left the t.v. on when he went in the basement.  I never have the t.v. on during the day.  It irritates me.  But anyhow…
The Daily Show with Jon Stewart comes on.  I’m not really paying any attention to the t.v. cuz my desk doesn’t face it and it wasn’t me [...]

Bunch of hooplah over on FetLife.  What’s new, right?  
I’m extremely stressed out over the constant slavier-than-thou bullshit I see all over the place.
I’m not a fucking slave, god damn it.  I don’t have to behave the way you do, the way the folks in Laura Antoniou’s books do or the way Master Meatmeister said a [...]

It’s question month, as y’all probably know and I actually got some questions this year!  Yay me!
Florida Dom had a few.  He asked:
–How painful is the cutting on your back and do you get comments about it when you go to the beach?
The cutting itself is done with a scalpel and it’s really not all [...]

So.
You know that fantasy so many of us have about being beaten (or spanked), fucked and walked away from like it was nothing more than a coffee break?  Like we’re just a pocket pussy, a toy to get him off and when he’s done we may as well not exist?  Or something of that nature?
That [...]

So I was sitting here, all curled up with some coffee and a book, when it hit me.  I’d just posted on Twitter about being old, boring and comfy.  And I am.  Perhaps too much so.
I don’t have any anxiety or spirit or even much anger these days.  I’m just settled and contented and logical [...]

I am so tired and yet I can’t sleep.  Or maybe I just don’t want to go to bed yet since Taylor shows no signs of being tired.  Or maybe my brain just won’t shut down for the night.
Regardless, it’s two in the morning and I just made a cup of coffee and sugared it [...]

So between the perimenopause issues and the thyroid issues and my age and my girly bits issues, Taylor and I had to face up to the fact, about a year ago, that we need to use lube.
How depressing.
It’s almost like a failure when, no matter how excited you feel and how aroused you are, your [...]

Lots of posts over on FetLife today about Ownership vs Mastery.
Personally I tend to use the words interchangeably.  Sort of.  I don’t use Master or slave in reference to me and Taylor but I do view the two dynamics (Owner/property and Master/slave) as being on the same level.
And before anyone gets in a twist I [...]

The question was asked on a FetLife group today “What skills (attitudes, attributes) does it take to effectively submit?”
My brain stumbled for a minute and the only thing I could come up with was that it doesn’t necessarily take any skills to submit, just the desire to do so.
For me, this is true.
Certain skills and [...]

The six year anniversary of Taylor and I meeting for the first time is coming up pretty soon. Early in February, actually.
We’d known each other years and years online but rarely talked.
He used to tell me “one of these days, sin”. (That was my screen name back then. Submissively_sinful. Most people called me sinny. Taylor [...]