Attention. We all want some sometimes. Some of us want more than others. You know the type.  Attention whores.   Everything they do is done to garner attention. It’s another thing I just don’t get. Now I’m not going to say I never look for attention.  We all do. Blogging itself is an attention seeking

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So I just ranted about this less than two months ago but I feel the need to revisit. Insult.  Injury. Offense. Stop it already! Is it because we are so connected to so many people over the internet?  Because we converse with people we’d never meet at all in our daily lives?  Because we read so

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So I’m sitting here and Taylor left the t.v. on when he went in the basement.  I never have the t.v. on during the day.  It irritates me.  But anyhow… The Daily Show with Jon Stewart comes on.  I’m not really paying any attention to the t.v. cuz my desk doesn’t face it and it wasn’t

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Bunch of hooplah over on FetLife.  What’s new, right?   I’m extremely stressed out over the constant slavier-than-thou bullshit I see all over the place. I’m not a fucking slave, god damn it.  I don’t have to behave the way you do, the way the folks in Laura Antoniou’s books do or the way Master Meatmeister

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“In my relationship there is none of this needing to tingle stuff.  There is no throwing of ashtrays.  I obey happily and suffer gladly.  I learn from mistakes and so does he and then we stop making mistakes and live together in un-ambiguous, perfectly communicating harmony!” Well.  Maybe not those exact words but that exact implication.

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I’m such a hermit lately! I haven’t checked FetLife in at least a week. So I peek in today and find yet another new group for daddy doms and their baby girls.  That makes more than twenty. Wouldn’t you think they’d find each other better in one group than twenty? *blink* And then there’s another

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I’ve been ranting for years about the safety police when it comes to BDSM.  I’ve long been a proponent of being aware of the risk and making your own decisions; of not sticking your nose in and telling other people what they “must” do in order to be safe. I’m really starting to get aggravated by the

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I don’t get it.  Folks seem to jump up and get insulted at the stupidest things these days! Everywhere I turn people are doing it.  You have to walk on egg shells all the time if you don’t want a bunch of drama because someone is sure to take offense if you aren’t excessively careful

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Yanno how folks say, all the time, that they’ve been “doing this” for such and such amount of time and they have this much experience and were trained, way back when, by an old guard so and so? I’ve decided I do have the right to ask them to prove it. Now I understand that

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I rarely let online shit get to me. I may get passionate in my responses but I rarely get truly pissed off. The past two days I let myself get genuinely, steam-coming-from-my-ears, clenched fisted PISSED.   Why, you ask?   At this point I’ve realized it’s because I’ve been being told my opinion isn’t valid. 

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Ok. I shouldn’t do it.  I should write something important.  But I can’t stop myself. I read this today and BURST into laughter: As a victim of rape @ age 19 that ended with my ass being taken with no preparation and the whole thing ending when I began to cry… Now don’t crawl all

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So while I’ve been quiet as hell around here I’ve been oddly active in Fetlife groups.  Probably because I can discuss and debate stuff over there without it being personal.  Here it’s all pretty personal and I’ve been avoiding that lately. Now that things are settling down in the health area, though, I’ve been pondering

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…stand under the single tail for a fucking hour then be doused in isopropyl alcohol than have to make phone calls. Yes, I know this is a vanilla complaint.  But, gods damn it, I’ve been calling for an eye appointment ALL day and the line has been…  BUSY.  Busy for five damned hours!  ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. And

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That the English language has gone to hell and people define words more by the way they feel about those words than by their actual meaning. “I believe rape means…” “I believe slave means…” “I believe masochism means…” Gah. Shut the fuck up. Words have real, actual, recorded, agreed upon by a higher power definitions

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I’ve noticed something over at FetLife.Something that’s bothersome to me on all sorts of levels. See, there are these people here. Most of them experienced, veterans of the scene with some years under their belt and very few illusions left as to the “fantasy” of BDSM. They live it, for the most part, and are

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Yeah. Regarding my post yesterday. Did y’all know I’m getting seriously slammed over at Blood, Sweat, Tears?  (Go ahead, check it out. I know you’re gonna.) It’s a shame, too, cuz the girl liked me right up until yesterday. Seems the fact that I’d send Teen to his dad rather than leave if shit got

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Someone got insulted when I said “unowned slave” is an oxymoron. (quick edit there cuz I forgot the “un” when I posted in the wee hours of the morning) And I wonder why people don’t define things the way I do? It’s getting to be quite obvious it’s because they have no grasp of the

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…and I’ll rant if I want to! Ahem. So… Back to conversations over on FetLife. Lots of talk lately about slave mindset vs submissive mindset. About the definition of the word slave and whether you can be one if you’re not owned/don’t have a master. Now I tend to define and use words quite literally. 

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So I use statcounter, right? (And, oh my gods I deleted my blog on there the other day. How depressing to lose all those pretty numbers. *sigh* Sure, I started over but it’s just not the same.) **edit** I got them back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Anyhow… Every once in awhile I go and see where folks are coming

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narrow-minded:1. having or showing a prejudiced mind; biased.2. not receptive to new ideas; having a closed mind.3. extremely conservative and morally self-righteous. synonyms: bigoted, conservative, conventional, illiberal, insular, intolerant, narrow, opinionated, parochial, petty, prejudiced, provincial, reactionary, short-sighted, small-minded I am tired of narrow-minded people.Tired of people who can’t see past their own small opinion to

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“Learning to live in the present moment is part of the path of joy.”~ Sarah Ban Breathnach I read this quote today and it made me realize… How often do you hear people say: When I was younger… Oh, I remember the time… God, those were the days… We had so much fun then… I

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So…okay…Call me petty and selfish but I swear to GOD I’m going to start hiding the portions of things that I expect to get, regardless of what it is.I bought a pound of potato salad today because I had a craving for sammiches on kaiser rolls and potato salad.I got two TEASPOONS of the potato

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I’m sort of a hoarder.I mean…I don’t save “stuff”, I throw away old clothes and furniture, I don’t collect anything…but I have this tendency to hoard food.Maybe it’s not hoarding. It’s more like… I pick and nibble.Say, for example, I go to the store and buy Taylor some Doritos and Colin some Funyuns and Sandi

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(Wrote this a few days ago on the ibook and have just now gotten around to plugging it in to the modem to post it) So, lately, I’ve been giving a lot of thought to expectations – just in general, really, but specifically the expectations we have of others. Because, face it, we all have

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So I’m supposed to be all happy and shit. I mean… the Dude I love just asked me to marry him, Christmas is coming – which is my very favorite time of year, our financial situation is looking up – despite some big debts… and here I sit, stuck in the middle of a bunch

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