I can, for instance, blame Tiger Woods for his indiscretions. They are, after all, no one’s fault but his own. But condemn him for them? I have no right.

I think often, people feel that blame is condemnation when they’re in the hot seat. Probably because they feel guilty.

I also think a lot of folks do, indeed, condemn. For those people, I feel sorry. Karma is a bitch.
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That being said, it’s always the people involved’s fault, and I agree that we need to take responsibility for our actions; we have no one to blame but ourselves. But condemning them is unfair, because we’re all only human.

It’s okay to say “yes, I’m doing this and these are the reasons why, I accept it is no one’s fault but my own that I am doing this.”

It’s not okay to say “yes, I’m doing this but it’s not my fault! You can’t blame me!”

You cannot cheat and be blameless.

Taking responsibility for your choices, to some people, means that they have to take a hard look at themselves and perhaps change the way they are living their life.

There are plenty of people who need not feel bad for what is technically, cheating, but there are plenty more who are just assholes and have no business trying to blame their partner for their own inability to maintain fidelity.
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It’s the not accepting blame, attempting to be the innocent party, shoving the blame on someone else that bothers me.

If you do it, it is your choice, you are to blame. The responsibility for what you do is your own.

It *is* complicated, life. But no matter what we do or why we do it, we are responsible for our actions. I think anyone who wants or needs to cheat should totally cheat. Just don’t say “I’m not to blame”.

I used to feel like you – if you’re married to a cold woman and you’re not getting your needs met, then leave.

BUT! life is complicated. Sometimes after you weigh the pros and cons, you make the choice to stay married but get your needs met elsewhere, and you come to terms with it.

I know lots of men who are married and love their wives, but frequent prostitutes as a way of filling in the blanks. I think it’s therapeutic for them and actually helps keep their marriage/partnership together.

And what of my dad? He’s married to my mom, who is mentally ill and totally dependent on him. She can’t even dress herself. Should he divorce her and stick her in a home so he can drive to CA in a convertible and find a healthy woman for a partner, or should he stick with her, take care of her, and maybe have an affair on the side? Personally I think he deserves quality time with a nice woman. Of course my mom would freak out and try to kill herself if he tried discussing this with her. Yep, life is complicated.
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