“We are like sculptors, constantly carving out of others the image we long for, need, love or desire, often against reality, against their benefit, and always, in the end, a disappointment, because it does not fit them.” ~Anais Nin

To not do this is one of my talents. I may wander thru life bumping into walls and missing street signs and pondering my own thoughts so intently I don’t hear what someone else has said – but I see people. I see them for exactly who they are, without giving them attributes that don’t exist just so I can make them into the person I want them to be. I don’t need to make them into a fairy tale version of themselves to suit my fantasy world. I don’t have one. :) I’m a realist, thru and thru.

Bad thing is…
I often really fuck up people’s fantasies of themselves and others.

Hate when that happens. ;)

I guess I just don’t understand the whole “hiding your head in the sand” thing.
I don’t understand how you can spend any significant amount of time with someone and actually think it will benefit ANYONE to not take the time to actually see them.

“He’s such a nice man”
No. No, hunny, he just does nice things to facilitate getting what he wants. That doesn’t make him nice, it makes him harmlessly selfish.

“She’s so Dominant”
No. Hate to ruin your buzz but she’s been burned so many times she can’t abide giving up control for fear of getting hurt again. If she’s the one controlling the relationship she can make sure she hurts you before you get the chance to do it to her.

“God, he’s a jerk”
Nope, he’s just not playing the social niceties game. He’s burned out on being tolerant of and nice to people he doesn’t really like. Doesn’t make him a jerk, just makes him honest. Try it some time. Ya might waste less time doing things that make you miserable and more time doing the things that actually make you happy.

“She’s such a helpless little thing!”
Yeah, right. If she were truly helpless you’d probably be calling her stupid and inept and laughing at her. Chances are you’re being duped by a very conniving, very convincing, game playing, soul draining succubus. Watch how easily she gets what she wants, accomplishes what she wants, when no one is looking – when no one is there to do the shit for her.

You get the point, I’m sure.

And ain’t I just the big headed bitch lately. :)

Don’t mean to be. I’m just very struck, recently, by how unperceptive most of this world’s population is. By how often everyone is just….

Deluding themselves.
Hiding from reality.
And then blaming every-damned-one-else.

Ciao