Comments on: Diagnosis? Too Normal.

By: boxxy

boxxy — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 01:52:52 +0000

Also, unwanted/undesired sex makes it either Rape, or you’re a whore… so… pick one <3

By: boxxy

boxxy — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 01:51:02 +0000

oh I get it! You’re a sociopath!

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 19:16:08 +0000

WOW. I don’t comment here ever and only check in from time to time but I have to say this is crazy. In my book you are far from normal and that’s what made the post so funny to me. Are you not allowed to voice your opinion? I’m amazed and you should be too Carrie Anne. I didn’t know I read the blog of such a powerful woman. Really, why would such a big deal be made of a simple post on the blog of a “normal” woman if they didn’t care what you thought. Carrie Ann you are well aware you are rude, crass and really funny as shit and anyone who has reads your blog should not take offense at all. I think you said what many of us think and are just too polite to say. Like you I’ve had some things happen to me but I don’t let it take control of my life. All of your past good and bad has helped create who you are today and in my mind because you like who you are today you feel “normal”. You should be pleased with yourself and I personally feel Adriana saying therapy would do you good, is rude. Are you happy? So why the hell, do you need therapy? Bullshit.

By: adriana

adriana — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 09:07:23 +0000

I bet therapy would do you some good. That totally sounds bitchy, right? But I mean it in the way that most people can probably benefit from some therapy, even if it means from going from good to better.

From this post, I would assume you’re a resilient person (or I could assume you’re in crazy denial d=). Some people just are. And if you are, it can be difficult to understand that some people just aren’t. I actually have that problem sometimes. I don’t know what it is. Nature? Nurture? Aliens? Phthalates? d= It’s just harder for some people to pull themselves up by their boot straps and, it can be difficult to listen to what comes off as bitching or whining. But it’s damned near impossible to understand that if you’re just not that type of person.

Do a lot of people play victim? Surely. IS there usually something going on that you can’t understand as an outsider? Yep.

By: Taylor

Taylor — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 03:32:30 +0000

“I’m just grateful that as shitty as my path has been, I’ve had people around me that have carried me through it until I could carry myself.”

Until you could carry yourself. NOTHING at all wrong with that. But when ti comes to people to take a liking to being carried. Who would rather let the folks around them carry them through life, instead of standing on their own, and they use their minor or even fictitious traumas to justify that do-less attitude and way of life. They do absolutely nothing to better themselves, they just continue being fuck ups. Those are the people we have no pity for, no compassion for, no patience for. They don’t deserve it.

By: Taylor

Taylor — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 02:50:29 +0000

RAPE. RAPE. Yeah I had to say it twice in all caps. Because every time the subject either comes up, or is even referred to that’s how it’s treated. It’s shouted in your face. It’s a billboard over the freeway. It’s this huge fucking punch in the face for anyone who doesn’t immediately treat every attention seeking twit who can’t admit she simply wanted to fuck like some fragile broken little bird.

VICTIM BLAMING. VICTIM BLAMING. Again all caps and said twice. Because it’s slung around that way. It’s used like Loki’s Sword of Vengeance. Verbally decapitating anyone who doesn’t cater to and enable every perpetual victim who utters a whimper.

News flash sunshine. Just because someone was raped doesn’t mean they have to spend the rest of their fucking life feeling like a victim, or at least pretending to.

Now some will say. “Taylor you’re just a misogynistic brute. You can’t imagine what it’s like to be treated that way.” And I would say, guess again toots, I’ve been there, and have the scars around my asshole to prove it. I have the constant bowel issues to prove it. Do I let it fuck with my head on a daily basis? No. Yeah it’s a daily problem, due to REAL physical damage. Not some stupid mental hang up. Not some easy excuse for me to constantly sit and pity myself. Not some lame excuse to consistently fuck my life up and expect those around me to make up for it.

Yes there were bad things that happened to me. But they do not define who I am. I don’t walk around facing the world as a fucking victim. I take responsibility for my decisions and I live my life.

Sure this is a bit off the topic but I felt like saying it. And AS a former victim of the very shit the people Carrie was talking about using as an excuse to be fuck ups, I have a right to talk about it. I have a right to bitch about it. All you victim advocates said so. So go ahead and give me grief about it. Go ahead, blame the victim.

By: Rayne

Rayne — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 18:59:53 +0000

Aww, thanks, Carrie. It’s good to know it’s noticeable.

And you know I love you, too.

By: Tomato Blossom

Tomato Blossom — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 13:09:56 +0000

I think what I find confusing is that you list a great number of things that sound difficult-beatings at the hands of your parents and nuns (something that I makes me terribly sad to hear), abusive from a lover, miscarriages and such, but your delivery of the experience….meaning, how you are describing them, your writing style and tone, are nearly flippant. You may not intend to be flippant, that may not have been the tone in your head when you were writing, but to me (and I’m speaking for me) that’s how it comes off. Flippant and defensive.

“I dated an abusive fucker almost all thru high school but that didn’t fuck me up, either. I think of him fondly, actually”

But then you respond to the comments in a very angry fashion about how they did upset you, these experiences,
“I never said my miscarriages didn’t hurt me or cause me intense grief, sadness and temporary fuck up’ness”

When I read the first post and then read the responses, I get a sense of disconnect.

And hell yeah, it’s your blog so you can write about your personal experiences in any way you want. If you have personal pain and ghosts from those experiences and you don’t want to wallow in them on the internet, amen that’s your choice. But what I see from the post is that you haven’t had any emotional or psychic ramifications at all from the numerous difficult life experiences you’ve gone through, then…when that’s pointed out you get pissed.

Many of the things you listed sound very hard-abuse, beatings and humilations, miscarriage. I personally get very very angry about kids being treated poorly and I think it’s a fucked up thing to lay on a kid, physical abuse of any kind.

That being said, your point remains that one should do one’s best to rise above experiences, learn from them, grow from them and not ruminate or wallow in victim hood. And I agree with Sarah’s post entirely.

And I’m out.

By: Shiba

Shiba — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 04:36:25 +0000

I was only responding to how I, personally, took what you wrote. I was only using examples from your text to explain how I felt about this sort of topic. “Get the fuck over” were my words, not yours, but for me that’s the same thing as telling someone to move on in less polite text. Which is what it sounds like you were trying to say.
And I didn’t say your miscarriage didn’t make you sad or fuck you up for a time, I’m using your ability to get over it as an example to show that other people can’t because they’re not like you.
I wasn’t putting any words in your mouth, I was explaining how I interpreted your entry and what I felt wasn’t quite right. I wasn’t trying to insult you, just be honest.

By: CarrieAnn

CarrieAnn — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 03:28:03 +0000

I never actually said most of what you’re saying.

I never said anyone should just get the fuck over anything.

I never said my miscarriages didn’t hurt me or cause me intense grief, sadness and temporary fuck up’ness.

And this is half the problem – people assuming they know what I meant to say or was trying to say.

I said what I meant.

Period.