Natural Order of things….

“It is not true that equality is a law of nature. Nature has no equality. It’s soverign law is sub -ordination
and
de-
pendence.”
~Marquis de
Vauvenargues

So I recently got in a discussion in an online group that had me mentioning that (in exact words) ” Taylor is always the dominant person in our relationship. He always has final say. We live by his rules, our lives revolve around him. (We being me, my son and his mom) He’s the axis of our household.”

And, typically, some of the girls in the group had a bloody fit – freaking out and questioning whether he actually “doms” his mother and my son.

So I’m thinking… only a twisted fuck would think he was “doming” them in a lifestyle sesnse. But, obviously, a dominant person is going to control not only his girl in an agreed upon lifestyle sense but as much of the world around him as he can. He’s the person in charge in our family, the man of the house…
And that just seems like it should have been obvious to me.
I mean… duh… he’s not fucking or beating his mother or our kid. But if you’re going to have a D/s relationship that is 24/7, if you’re going to have someone who is REALLY in control of that relationship, if you’re going to have an actual power based relationship dynamic — then aren’t you going to need to have that person be in control of as much as possible? How realistic would our D/s dynamic be if he was only in charge of me, if his rules only pertained to us as a couple and not to our life in general? How on earth would I ever truly feel submissive if I could tell him to fuck off in regards to how we raise the kid? Or in regards to the household rules? Or if he was in charge of me but his mom ran the house? WTF?

To me…
Dominance is a personality trait, not just a role you put on to have some kinky sex or S&m play. A dominant person will naturally take charge of everything around him if it’s in his power to do so.
Taylor is a dominant person. In order to be part of his life, part of his family, you accept that he IS the person ultimately in charge. You live by his rules or you can get the hell out.
Does that mean he orders us about on an hourly basis? Hell no. But he is, without question, the person in charge of his home and everyone in it.
So if that means he’s “domming” his mother and the kid – then I guess he is. The nature of the world is the stronger rule the weaker – and Taylor is definitely the strongest force in our lives.