Those of us in D/s relationships have super human anti abuse cloaks which can be defeated only by unobtainium stolen from giant blue fairy things.

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So I’m cruising around FetLife this morning and I’m all blinking at my monitor, making gaping fish faces and pretty much sitting here slack jawed. Holy hell. There are a whole lot of people I like on Fet but, for the most part, it’s become a cesspit of retardation. I read no less than ten

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So I log in to FetLife today – which I no longer do each and every day cuz I’m flippin’ busy, man – and the first things I see on my front page? “People who think dog rape is a-ok” and “Another day, another shoot at Kink”. Wandering over to my groups I found “Is

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So, if you follow kaya around on Fetlife you’re bound to come across some of the funniest and snarkiest and gobsmacking-ist topics. Which, of course, make the best blog fodder. Today I came across one dealing with rules; Masters rules vs community/group rules and which rules take precedence. And I’m all… Duh. Why the fuck

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So.  FetLife.  Again, it has me pondering.  I may not participate there much but, I swear to gods, whenever I visit I end up with a blog post. Lately there have been some discussions about who comes first; child, master or self. And I’m kind of floored at the responses. I mean, first of all,

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…Boom boom boom. ____________________________________ I got this thing in the mail today.  A pamphlet and coupon thing from Glade.  For their new… Ahem… Fragrance Collection. Cuz, you know, the rest of their stuff doesn’t have fragrance or anything. *blinkblink* What is with the people running advertising and marketing these days?  Have you seen that t.v. commercial

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Bunch of hooplah over on FetLife.  What’s new, right?   I’m extremely stressed out over the constant slavier-than-thou bullshit I see all over the place. I’m not a fucking slave, god damn it.  I don’t have to behave the way you do, the way the folks in Laura Antoniou’s books do or the way Master Meatmeister

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“In my relationship there is none of this needing to tingle stuff.  There is no throwing of ashtrays.  I obey happily and suffer gladly.  I learn from mistakes and so does he and then we stop making mistakes and live together in un-ambiguous, perfectly communicating harmony!” Well.  Maybe not those exact words but that exact implication.

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I’m such a hermit lately! I haven’t checked FetLife in at least a week. So I peek in today and find yet another new group for daddy doms and their baby girls.  That makes more than twenty. Wouldn’t you think they’d find each other better in one group than twenty? *blink* And then there’s another

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Good goddess.  I’ve had this thing open all day, intending to write something, and I’ve just been all preoccupied with other stuff. I was over at Del.icio.us adding links when I realized more than half my damned links to people were FEED links instead of SITE links.  So I had to edit two hundred or

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I don’t get it.  Folks seem to jump up and get insulted at the stupidest things these days! Everywhere I turn people are doing it.  You have to walk on egg shells all the time if you don’t want a bunch of drama because someone is sure to take offense if you aren’t excessively careful

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1) I have over two hundred blogs in my feed reader.  Closer to two fifty. I find myself skimming, wheeling my mouse over them too damned fast to really even judge if something is worth reading. I know I have to weed some of them out but, oh my gods, that’s a lot of work.

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I rarely let online shit get to me. I may get passionate in my responses but I rarely get truly pissed off. The past two days I let myself get genuinely, steam-coming-from-my-ears, clenched fisted PISSED.   Why, you ask?   At this point I’ve realized it’s because I’ve been being told my opinion isn’t valid. 

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Lots of posts over on FetLife today about Ownership vs Mastery. Personally I tend to use the words interchangeably.  Sort of.  I don’t use Master or slave in reference to me and Taylor but I do view the two dynamics (Owner/property and Master/slave) as being on the same level. And before anyone gets in a

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So while I’ve been quiet as hell around here I’ve been oddly active in Fetlife groups.  Probably because I can discuss and debate stuff over there without it being personal.  Here it’s all pretty personal and I’ve been avoiding that lately. Now that things are settling down in the health area, though, I’ve been pondering

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I’ve noticed something over at FetLife.Something that’s bothersome to me on all sorts of levels. See, there are these people here. Most of them experienced, veterans of the scene with some years under their belt and very few illusions left as to the “fantasy” of BDSM. They live it, for the most part, and are

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Someone got insulted when I said “unowned slave” is an oxymoron. (quick edit there cuz I forgot the “un” when I posted in the wee hours of the morning) And I wonder why people don’t define things the way I do? It’s getting to be quite obvious it’s because they have no grasp of the

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…and I’ll rant if I want to! Ahem. So… Back to conversations over on FetLife. Lots of talk lately about slave mindset vs submissive mindset. About the definition of the word slave and whether you can be one if you’re not owned/don’t have a master. Now I tend to define and use words quite literally. 

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