I? Am officially a grown up.  We bought our very first lawn mower today. New. From the lawn mower store.  It’s red and shiny. It mulches!  And Taylor actually went and bought it cuz the lawn mower store makes me almost comatose with boredom. We’re a very stereotypical couple.  He hates going into Target or

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So I log in to FetLife today – which I no longer do each and every day cuz I’m flippin’ busy, man – and the first things I see on my front page? “People who think dog rape is a-ok” and “Another day, another shoot at Kink”. Wandering over to my groups I found “Is

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So.  FetLife.  Again, it has me pondering.  I may not participate there much but, I swear to gods, whenever I visit I end up with a blog post. Lately there have been some discussions about who comes first; child, master or self. And I’m kind of floored at the responses. I mean, first of all,

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Every time I see a discussion titled slave vs submissive, I damned near get lock jaw from clenching my teeth so hard. I am not about to get into the debate regarding what the difference is.  As far as I’m concerned, there freakin’ isn’t one.  Not in the way most folks mean when they talk

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(Were you humming along with the title?  I was.) Taylor and I were talkin’ this morning.  I was telling him about a blog I read and how I used to get all insecure when I read it, like I wasn’t doing it as “right” as this person was.  How even when they had struggles it

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  Yeah, I got some.  In fact, I slept until nearly one in the afternoon today.  But why, you may ask, when I went to bed at like….  oh…  NINE last night?   In a word — Taylor. See, I’m out of ambien.  This is a huge bummer because I’m a chronic insomniac (and have

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I’ve talked a gazillion times about expectations.  I have.  I know I have. I also know that to let myself have a bunch of expectations about something pretty much sets me up to be disappointed. But I think I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not the expectations themselves… It’s unspoken, uncommunicated expectations.  Those types

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“Life is so constructed that an event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation.” ~Charlotte Bronte I don’t feel that we should… expect nothing. Or settle for less than we deserve. I do however feel we should… stop expecting people to be more than they are. Stop expecting events in our lives to match

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“Depression is nourished by a lifetime of ungrieved and unforgiven hurts.” ~Penelope Sweet So I woke up this morning bawling like a baby, ready to crawl into a hole and just die. Don’t know what’s with me lately. I’ve never been depressed before but I’m starting to think that I am SERIOUSLY depressed now. (Yeah,

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“If a man is offered a fact which goes against his instincts, he will scrutinize it closely, and unless the evidence is overwhelming, he will refuse to believe it. If, on the other hand, he is offered something which affords a reason for acting in accordance to his instincts, he will accept it even on

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“Learning to live in the present moment is part of the path of joy.”~ Sarah Ban Breathnach I read this quote today and it made me realize… How often do you hear people say: When I was younger… Oh, I remember the time… God, those were the days… We had so much fun then… I

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I’m sort of a hoarder.I mean…I don’t save “stuff”, I throw away old clothes and furniture, I don’t collect anything…but I have this tendency to hoard food.Maybe it’s not hoarding. It’s more like… I pick and nibble.Say, for example, I go to the store and buy Taylor some Doritos and Colin some Funyuns and Sandi

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So I’m supposed to be all happy and shit. I mean… the Dude I love just asked me to marry him, Christmas is coming – which is my very favorite time of year, our financial situation is looking up – despite some big debts… and here I sit, stuck in the middle of a bunch

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“It is not wealth one asks for, but just enough to preserve one’s dignity, to work unhampered, to be generous, frank and independent.” ~ W. Somerset Maugham , ‘Of Human Bondage’, 1915 I think I’ve used this quote before but I reread it today and it sure did hit home. Nothing but troubles lately –

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“We are like sculptors, constantly carving out of others the image we long for, need, love or desire, often against reality, against their benefit, and always, in the end, a disappointment, because it does not fit them.” ~Anais Nin To not do this is one of my talents. I may wander thru life bumping into

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“They say that blood is thicker than water. Maybe that’s why we battle our own with more energy and gusto than we would ever expend on strangers” ~ David Assael, Northern Exposure So, yeah…I’m on this family kick lately. Lol. Surprise surprise! Mine has become extended, my dad isn’t doing so well, my baby brother

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“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things only hoped for.” ~Epicurus I think, sometimes, this is what people most forget… We tend to want everything – every want, need and desire to be met all at the same

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“Joy and sorrow are inseparable. Together they come and when one sits alone with you, remember the other one is asleep upon your bed.” ~Kahlil Gibran Yanno…Sometimes things just go really, really right.And I’ll admit it’s a little scary when suddenly EVERYTHING seems to be going right.particularly when you’re coming off a phase where absolutely

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“Indecency, vulgarity, obscenity – these are strictly confined to man; he invented them. Among the higher animals there is no trace of them. They hide nothing; they are not ashamed. Man, with his soiled mind, covers himself. Man is the Animal that Blushes. He is the only one that does it – or has occasion

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“It’s all right for a woman to be, above all, human. I am a woman first of all” ~Anais Nin Some days I feel like I’m not allowed to be a human, much less a woman. I’m not allowed to be bitchy, crabby, snappish – or I pay for it with triple what I dished

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“When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bustling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanitY” ~Dale Carnegie Well…I’d say we’re creaures of logic.When it suits us.But, as a whole, I guess humans are far more apt to be

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“For it is mutual trust, even more than mutual interest, that holds human associations together. Our friends seldom profit us but they make us feel safe….” ~H.L. MenckenIf I haven’t said it enough lately…I have some really, really great friends.I”ve been wary, for a long time, of creating actual friendships.I lost all mine in my

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“I was crazy once, they put me in a padded room, it was hot, hot like summer, summer? i hate summer, i like spring, spring? i died in spring, and they put me in the soft soft ground, there were worms, worms? worms drive me crazy, crazy? i was crazy once…..”Thought that was fitting, as

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