It’s almost here. It’s really going to happen. In less than 24 hours I will be on vacation.  In about 36 hours I will be heading for our getaway suite. I do believe we’ll lock the door (well, okay, auto locks since it’s a hotel but you get the idea) and not surface again until

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Let’s start remembering it’s about being equal, not the same. Choice, not force

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A pap smear reminder? Way better than that fuzzy peach and white striped sweater I got one year. Way. Better.

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It’s like the whole asking for play thing. If I ask and he does it, I feel too much in control. So he should just do it cuz he knows I need it and I shouldn’t have to ask.

And, yeah, we all know how well that mind reading stuff works, right?

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I love Sundays. I slept in until eleven o’clock this morning.  Pure luxury compared to my early rising weekdays lately. I’m lounging around in loose, low slung shorts and a tank, enjoying the breeze drifting thru my house. I’ve got fabulous coffee in a mug by my elbow. Life?  It’s good. (The coffee, btw.  It’s

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Holy shit, I have had a busy week.  From a busy weekend – other than Sit-Around-Sunday – right into a busy week. Work has gotten more intense as I take on a few extra responsibilities – not that I’m complaining! I have a dream jobby sort of thing!  But it’s left me with little time

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It always strikes me as odd, how the mind works. The way it wanders and skips from one thought to the next. I mean, last night, I was out on the balcony, looking out at the yard after having spent some time on Facebook.  I was thinking about how I’m not sure what my feelings

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So last night I ran Taylor a bath loaded with bubbles, handed him an erotic book and left him to soak for a bit.  While he was in there, I scrambled around lighting a zillion candles (including a massage candle) in our bedroom and putting a soft red sheet over the regular bedding to protect

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Every time I see a discussion titled slave vs submissive, I damned near get lock jaw from clenching my teeth so hard. I am not about to get into the debate regarding what the difference is.  As far as I’m concerned, there freakin’ isn’t one.  Not in the way most folks mean when they talk

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I’ve talked a gazillion times about expectations.  I have.  I know I have. I also know that to let myself have a bunch of expectations about something pretty much sets me up to be disappointed. But I think I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not the expectations themselves… It’s unspoken, uncommunicated expectations.  Those types

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“If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love. Don’t be surly at home, then go out in the street and start grinning ‘Good morning’ at total strangers.”~Maya Angelou What a quote, eh? I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. Probably because Taylor and I work together so

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“A leaf fluttered in through the window this morning, as if supported by the rays of the sun, a bird settled on the fire escape, joy in the task of coffee, joy accompanied me as I walked.” ~Anais Nin I touched on this in my 360° blog but thought it deserved a bit more attention…

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“One need not be a chamber to be haunted;One need not be a house;The brain has corridors surpassingMaterial place.”~Emily Dickinson I try to live each day as if the future doesn’t hold anything terrifying…to push the fear to the back of my mind, refusing to let it rule my days, ruining what may be the

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The Journeyby Mary Oliver One day you finally knewwhat you had to do, and began,though the voices around youkept shoutingtheir bad advice –though the whole housebegan to trembleand you felt the old tug at your ankles.“Mend my life!”each voice cried.But you didn’t stop.You knew what you had to do,though the wind priedwith its stiff fingersat

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So I’m supposed to be all happy and shit. I mean… the Dude I love just asked me to marry him, Christmas is coming – which is my very favorite time of year, our financial situation is looking up – despite some big debts… and here I sit, stuck in the middle of a bunch

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“It is not wealth one asks for, but just enough to preserve one’s dignity, to work unhampered, to be generous, frank and independent.” ~ W. Somerset Maugham , ‘Of Human Bondage’, 1915 I think I’ve used this quote before but I reread it today and it sure did hit home. Nothing but troubles lately –

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“Learning to live in the present moment is part of the path of joy.”~Sarah Ban Breathnach I believe this.Living in the past is something far too many people do. You cannot grow if you like your past you more than the present. What sort of life can you have if what has been is always

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“The statistics on sanity are that one out of every four Americans is suffering from some form of mental illness. Think of your three best friends. If they’re okay, then it’s you.” ~Rita Mae Brown So… Yeah… And what if you, your family and nearly all your friends are at least slightly insane? Maybe that’s

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“We are like sculptors, constantly carving out of others the image we long for, need, love or desire, often against reality, against their benefit, and always, in the end, a disappointment, because it does not fit them.” ~Anais Nin To not do this is one of my talents. I may wander thru life bumping into

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“You choose to go voluntarily into the fire. The blaze might destroy you. But if you survive, every blow of the hammer will serve to shape your being. Every drop of water wrung from you will temper and strengthen your soul.” ~Margaret Weis I believe this.I believe that everything that happens – every thing –

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“They say that blood is thicker than water. Maybe that’s why we battle our own with more energy and gusto than we would ever expend on strangers” ~ David Assael, Northern Exposure So, yeah…I’m on this family kick lately. Lol. Surprise surprise! Mine has become extended, my dad isn’t doing so well, my baby brother

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“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; but remember that what you now have was once among the things only hoped for.” ~Epicurus I think, sometimes, this is what people most forget… We tend to want everything – every want, need and desire to be met all at the same

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“People drain me, even the closest of friends, and I find loneliness to be the best state in the union to live in.” ~Margaret Cho, weblog I have had one room-mate and been married twice. Until I met Taylor I truly felt I was incapable of living with anyone other than my son. But Taylor

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“Joy and sorrow are inseparable. Together they come and when one sits alone with you, remember the other one is asleep upon your bed.” ~Kahlil Gibran Yanno…Sometimes things just go really, really right.And I’ll admit it’s a little scary when suddenly EVERYTHING seems to be going right.particularly when you’re coming off a phase where absolutely

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“This is the true joy in life; the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of Nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will

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