So I log in to FetLife today – which I no longer do each and every day cuz I’m flippin’ busy, man – and the first things I see on my front page? “People who think dog rape is a-ok” and “Another day, another shoot at Kink”. Wandering over to my groups I found “Is [...]

So, if you follow kaya around on Fetlife you’re bound to come across some of the funniest and snarkiest and gobsmacking-ist topics. Which, of course, make the best blog fodder. Today I came across one dealing with rules; Masters rules vs community/group rules and which rules take precedence. And I’m all… Duh. Why the fuck [...]

“In my relationship there is none of this needing to tingle stuff.  There is no throwing of ashtrays.  I obey happily and suffer gladly.  I learn from mistakes and so does he and then we stop making mistakes and live together in un-ambiguous, perfectly communicating harmony!” Well.  Maybe not those exact words but that exact implication. [...]