The Grumps
So I straightened and vacuumed the living room, wiped down the kitchen, got most of the laundry started…
Taylor is at the garage working on the bike…
I’m bored.
There are a ton of things I could do but I just don’t feel like it.
I hate days like this.
I woke up before I wanted to and I think it just made me grumpy.
Grumpy days suck.
I think when you’re in a power based relationship they suck even worse. Anyone else notice that?
When I was married and life was vanilla and either of us had a grumpy day it was icky but not anything to make ya feel bad about yourself.
But when you’re supposed to be the submissive partner and you’re grumpy? And you don’t want to do anything? And you slack off on behaving how you want to behave? Or even do everything perfectly, behave perfectly but feel grumpy inside?
It kinda sucks way more than it ever did when it was vanilla flavored grump.
It makes you feel like a failure on TOP of being grumpy!
And it’s almost even worse when he’s grumpy. Cuz I tend to take it too personally and feel like a failure for not keeping him perfectly happy at all times.
Like that’s feasible, right?
Meh.
I think I should hop in the shower and get all pretty. It’ll make me feel better and be way better for Taylor to come home to than this rag-a-bag look I”m sporting at the moment.
Actually, even in a power based relationship, it is not your job to make him happy. If that were the goal, it would be an impossible one. And that is a recipe for a budding neurosis. Each person is responsible for their own happiness in this world. At least, to my way of thinking. :)
Obviously no one can MAKE someone be happy. But I don’t think it’s bad to want to do things and treat them in ways that make them feel happy. As opposed to doing things and treating them in ways that make them feel miserable.
I think we all realize that no matter what we do or how we act a person can be unhappy as a person, unhappy with their life or job or whatever. The whole, profound question of being a happy person and another person being able to create happiness in someone who is innately miserable isn’t exactly what I was talking about.
I was speaking more about the typical female (or submissive, maybe?) response of “oh, you’re cranky. did I do something? can I help?” And the tendency to take it personally when you can’t.
Or maybe it really is just me. :P
Hello….
I totally know what you mean. I sometimes feel like I should try and figure a way to de-grumpify (Not a real word but whatever) I think making yourself feel more pretty was a great idea. (mental note made) I find when I do something pleasing to myself and Justin my mood will change all around.
I have lurked for a long time and feel like I relate in lots of your posts. Thanks for sharing!!
Quinn
Glad you delurked and that I made sense to someone besides myself.:)
Oh. And the getting pretty thing worked really well. It made me feel sexy and good about myself, which in turn led to a wonderful evening. Odd how that works, isn’t it?
What I really, really hate is when he is grumpy. Like now. He’s not talking to me at all and that sucks because there are still 3 more days of Easter to go…
That does suck. I think it’s worse than being grumpy yourself. *sigh*
I don’t know. For me, those grumpy days are like the end of the world, regardless of relationship status.